Trying to have a sex life as a person with chronic illness is hard. (No pun intended, seriously.) The longer you go without intimate contact, the greater the distance grows between you. It becomes awkward. And getting back in the saddle is harder for women than it is for men, I think.
I certainly don't have all the answers (I sure wish I did), but a recent Chronic Babe Carnival focused on this issue and the submissions are great reading if you're facing this issue, too: Blog Carnival #30: Let's Talk About Sex.
Additionally, a great resource is this book, The Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg and Fran Odette.
How does this issue affect you? How do you cope with it? is you partner understanding?